Thursday, September 1, 2011

Romance is........................?

In class yesterday a friend was complaining that her husband never does anything romantic for her.
She wants to be wined and dined, would love a bunch of roses 'just because' and bubble baths with champagne featured heavily in the conversation.
I didn't say much ( which for me is surprising).
I am married to the most unromantic person on the planet.
He substitutes wine and dine with a McDonalds takeaway in front of the TV
Flowers are for when things have gone very wrong ( like when you blow the "buying a new car budget" by several thousand dollars)
Bath times are solo operations and Star Trek features heavily in his his life.
On the traditional Romance scale, he doesn't even leave the starting line.

On our wedding day the biggest compliment he gave me was "Your dress is nice" and when I expressed my fears about the impending birth of our first born.I believe his response was a slap on the thigh and "you'll be right."

Sometimes I feel ripped off, or let down by the lack of obvious gestures of love. I didn't share all this in class, I don't want to justify his life and my life and our marriage and the why's and wherefores of how it works. It just does ok.

So I came home after a VERY long day of learning.
He made me a cup of tea.

He'd been to the store and was making sausages, mashed potato, vegies and gravy. for dinner.
He had taken small child to the park and played.
He'd fixed the tyre on large teens bike.
He washed the dog.

I fell in love again.
The big showy gestures are nice,
The small acts of love are nicer.

It is the first day of spring here today.. I hope wherever you are, small acts of love remind you that you are loved, that you are appreciated,


  1. Loved this! My husband's not a showy gesture type of guy either. I used to try to pull it out of him, but he makes up for it in so many other ways. :)

  2. love this post- it rings so real- I feel the same way about my husband- not a romantic but a great dad and perfect husband-
    I actually wrote a post about this very topic which is to be posted on another blog for a friend who is out for the week getting hitched-

  3. Thanks ladies.. romance really is in the eye of the beholder, to be honest if 'the man' comes home with flowers I get all kinds of nervous.. it's never a good sign. LOL

  4. I've never understood people who look for a big gesture on special days. To me, real love means showing someone you love them every day. Exactly like this.


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