"Why do you want to label your child?"
First let me rephrase your rude, insensitive and out of line question.
I don't WANT to label him. I want this whole bloody mess to be not happening. I want some normal. I want sleep. I want help.
No mother WANTS to spend hours in Doctors rooms trying to convince her already over-stressed, over-stimulated and over-analysed kid to 'just do his best'.
No mother WANTS to have her stomach hit the floor every time the school rings to report on her kid's latest social blunder.
No mother WANTS to dry the tears when her kid is the only one not invited to a party,or when the school suggests he not go on the end of year excursion.
No mother WANTS to rock him as he cries himself to sleep again, with her heart breaking and another day of the same crap coming up tomorrow.
Let me tell you why I NEED to label my child.
Without a label he is just naughty.
Without a label he is just disruptive.
Without a label he is just anti-social.
Without a label he is just disorganised and lazy.
Without a label he is without support or understanding in the classroom and playground.
Without a label there is no FUNDING and
WITHOUT FUNDING there is NO FRIGGIN' HELP !!
Without a label the teachers have no guidelines, no strategies and no patience.
Without a label the principal won't speak to this mother.
If he does not have a label then he is just a little boy who sits in detention every day for not focusing, for not completing work, for lashing out at cruel kids, for refusing to look the teacher in the eye.
Yes, I need a label for my child.
Then maybe, the world will stop punishing him.
Maybe then he will be allowed to grow and flourish into an awesome young man.
Maybe, then, you will see what I see.
Photo snapped this morning by the gorgeous Madmother, with thanks xxx